4 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself if You Have a Stank Attitude

Clear out relationship funkiness with this game-changing exercise

by Samantha Pollack

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Oh, the shit we say to ourselves.

“You’re a failure. You’ll never be a real [insert profession here].”

“You never follow through on anything. You’re a dirty filthy procrastinator!”

Come to think of it, the shit we say to (and about) others is pretty rough, too:

“My mom never listens to me.”

“I hate how Shannon is always so ‘rainbows and sunshine.’ She’s such a fake.”


It’s easy to have a chuckle at the absurdity of these thoughts when you see them typed out like this, but the fact is, this kind of stinkin’ thinkin’ can corrode your relationships like acid rain on a tin roof.

Your relationship with your spouse can suffer because of the communication block that happens when you’re both stuck on a belief about the other person that may or may not be true (it’s probably not).

And your relationship with yourself suffers when you keep calling yourself a dirty filthy procrastinator. Duh.

Of course, you already know that. Most of us have figured out by now that 90% of our self-talk is just habitual, negative noise. It comes from childhood. It comes from fear. It comes from shame.

But knowing that and overcoming it are two different things. Ditching a limiting belief is no day at the beach…that shit is sticky. And persistent. Like Christmas tree sap.

What you need is a methodical, repeatable approach to notice, explore, and then release the negative thought or belief.

Wait a sec — we have that!

If you’re already an Abundant Yogi student, you know what we’re talking about. But for the uninitiated, we’re referring to “The Work,” A.K.A. The Work of Byron Katie.

“The Work” consists of four questions (kind of; some of the questions have several parts) which needle into the stinkin’ thinkin’ that leads to confusion, upset, and miscommunication. It gently guides you through a process of exploration and reframing, which results in clarity, freedom, and restored empowerment.

Kris (that’s our founder, in case you didn’t know) studied under Katie personally and uses “The Work” nearly every day.

And it’s not just effective in your interpersonal relationships; it can be used to tackle any limiting beliefs you might have — about your financial situation, about the evils of marketing, or even about Donald Trump.

Each quarter, we host a live call open to anyone in our database who registers, where two of our existing student volunteers take turns practicing “The Work” as both facilitator and client.

We just wrapped up our February call — and we wanted to share it with you!

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We’ve never offered a class archive to the public like this, but when you listen to these two ladies do their own “Work,” you’ll understand why we’re sharing it now.

If “The Work” speaks to you like it does to us, and you want a chance to listen in on the next “Work It” call (and other equally transformative, but totally DIFFERENT live support calls –– such as calls that help you strategize your next action steps in your business, get to the root of that blasted procrastination habit, or promote your classes/retreats/programs/offerings so they’ll CRUSH), the best way to do so is to get a taste of what it’s like to be on the INSIDE of Abundant Yogi, as a student.

All AY students come into the fold ONLY if they absolutely fall in love with us (and us with them) during an exploratory one-on-one Grounding Your Vision coaching session –– which you can sign up for, for free, HERE

During that call, you’ll delve into your current challenges, including any stinkin’ thinkin’ you have about them. You’ll get the undivided attention of an AY staff coach laser-beam focused on YOU, your deepest desires for your life and career, and the fastest way to realize those desires.

Here’s the sign-up link again.

Until then, in the immortal words of RuPaul…

You. Bettah. WORK.


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Samantha Pollack
Samantha Pollack traveled a winding road through personal training, health coaching, and the restaurant business, before hitting her stride as a full-time writer. In 2010, she bid a fond “peace out” to her demanding career in Boston and relocated to the mountains of Asheville, NC. Since then, she’s launched (and ...read more

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