Calvin and Hobbes: “There’s never enough time to do all the nothing you want.”
Before I even start on this subject, I have to give credit.
Chela Davison (a ridiculously clear and fabulous Integral Coach who I work with to deepen the sense of mutual partnership with my husband) and Elena Brower (without whose profoundly grounding Yogaglo classes I would not be a very happy person)… I am deeply indebted to you both. Without your insight and voices of love and reason, this post might not have ever made its way into the world. The title, my choice of words and descriptive phrases, such as “generous grounding” and “strengthening the muscle”… that is all YOU coming through me. I feel honored to pass it on in my own flavor through my own filters, but want to be clear… I am not the source.
What does it mean to “allow for generous grounding”? And how does “strengthening this muscle” cultivate abundance – including monetary?
To me, generous grounding equates to the following do’s and dont’s. These apply on the mat, at work, and to any situation in which you tend to put life-constricting pressure on yourself.
I’ll explain after the list how adhering to it creates a strange ripple effect that can boost your bank account.
- Take longer than you think you can to enjoy whatever grounds and nourishes you, even if it’s just 5-10 minutes longer than you would normally allow for (yoga, walking, meditating, singing, dancing, drawing, etc.).
- Schedule into each week the activities and practices that keep you connected to your own creative impulse. They should be AS HIGH PRIORITY as the tasks and commitments that pay the bills because they support your well being just as much. This is a key component of lifestyle design.
- Allow for a little less achieving, accomplishing, and perfecting if it means you can practice expanding your capacity to access joy and pleasure NOW, even if things are still a little messy, undone, or incomplete. That CAPACITY is what makes you truly attractive, especially to your potential clients and the people you most want to spend time with.
- Succumb to compulsive urges to rush, strive, struggle, or force… especially if you’re doing it because you’d feel bad about yourself otherwise. Instead, shift your focus to your interior – this may actually be a perfect moment to just breathe, feel what you feel, and be okay with things exactly how they are.
- Believe that if you’re short on funds and not producing enough income to give you the time freedom and buying choice that you want, that it must mean you need to work HARDER. Nine times out of ten, we just need to work SMARTER. Meaning, do MORE of the things we’re good at that pay us really well (because we’re so good at them and we’ve OWNED that), and WAY less of the things we suck at or that pay us crapola.
While that list of suggestions might seem overly simplistic, I can tell you this:
It came from two places mainly;
- an examination into my own shifts and changes over the last few years, habit- and perspective-wise, keeping my eye on what has made the most significant difference in my happiness and business success, and
- from the most consistent actions taken and beliefs cultivated by my students and private clients who’ve transformed before my eyes – not only in their money maturity and time- and business-management skills, but with their capacity to fully and authentically express themselves, their needs and desires, and their unique gifts and offerings.
So whatever you do, don’t take the list lightly.
Making conscious decisions and taking deliberate actions that strengthen the muscle of THERE IS ENOUGH TIME (even if you don’t think there is, and ESPECIALLY if you habitually rush rush rush) is the most life-, business-, and bank-account-boosting thing you can do if you truly want to cultivate abundance inside and out.
Because a belief in NOT enough is a belief in NOT enough, whichever way we spin it. What I mean by that is, if you believe in NOT-ENOUGHNESS around time, you probably unknowingly believe in NOT-ENOUGHNESS around money, and maybe even around love. Essentially, what we’re talking about here is a belief in LACK. That’s like a meme, a virus in your operating system. It contaminates everything and the ripple effect is huge.
Our list of DO’s and DONT’s above practiced daily can help reprogram LACK right at the source. Any belief in lack will start to soften, then before too long, you’ll really start to BELIEVE (because you’ll be taking the actions and getting the physical evidence) that there IS enough time.
TIME to do what deeply matters to you, TIME to nourish yourself, TIME to use great care.
Try taking the list to heart for 3 weeks. See if you don’t see a bump in your energy, your bank account, and your ability to create your life by design.
Let me know how it goes.
Have a beautiful weekend,
*Chela Davison: ChelaDavison.com