I just got home from a weeklong trip to Cancun, Mexico where I was hanging with my “Rich, Happy & Hot” ladies––a group of about 20 entrepreneurial women who joined me in Marie Forleo’s RHH Mastery Program.
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This was a seriously life changing weekend.
As Marie put it, “It was a non-stop fiesta of ninja marketing, explosive business growth, ground-shaking personal development, luxurious spa treatments, bright sunshine, breezy cabanas, crazy dancing and EPIC parties.”
Amidst all that magic, here are the biggest life and business lessons I picked up while I was there that I’ll never forget:
1. To GO BIG in your business, know your “GO-TO Place”, then get support in creating and sticking to a plan that will keep you OUT of that nasty rut.
We all have a “favorite flava” of drama. An oh-so-familiar habit, behavior, or “head space” we slip into when we’re feeling challenged, and ESPECIALLY when we’re facing our biggest fears and chasing our biggest dreams (which the ego HATES!).
Our GO-TO place is like a smoke screen we create around us (most likely unconsciously) as our secret way of playing small or excusing ourselves for not going after what we REALLY want.
Once we pinpoint what our “GO-TO Place” is, we have to OWN it fully, then devise a plan that is SOLID enough to keep us in the game even when those old tendencies start pulling at us again (which they WILL).
Wanna know what my GO-TO Place is?
I absolutely love my lifestyle and career. But when I over-commit myself, like saying yes to too many speaking gigs, clients, classes, or even personal endeavors like traveling, having family in town, and taking on too many household projects, my lifestyle shifts from buttery and balanced to feeling like a chaotic, pressure-filled J-O-B!
I burn myself out, skip out on sleep, get stressed and feel depleted, skip yoga practices and WORST OF ALL, dodge intimate time with my one-and-only (that would otherwise nourish BOTH of us).
Not only do I feel like total ass when I do this, but I lose my passion and drive, I forget about the people I’m here to serve, and I become a lot more prone to “monkey mind” which is soooo NOT fun.
No good comes out of it and EVERYBODY pays for it; my clients, my husband… my HEALTH!
BUT––there’s a payoff. Which is why I keep GOING to the GO TO Place.
I “get” to feel busy.
I “get” to feel important.
I “get” to put off action steps that I KNOW I need to take in order to really “GO BIG” as they say; put myself out there going BALLS TO THE WALL changing lives, taking a stand, and sharing my gifts with the world.
So the first HUGE takeaway I got from Mexico was to face the fact that I’m a KHRONIC over-committer––that’s my GO TO Place. So from here on out I am fully committed to NO MORE OVERCOMMITTING!
To ward off any future slip-ups, I’ve put a plan into place including frequent check-ins with my coach and mastermind chicas to keep me from giving a WINK of my time and attention to anything other than the VERY VERY FEW and MUY IMPORTANTE HANDFUL of things I’ve already scheduled out for the next 12 months that are #1 priority in my life and business. The stuff that REALLY matters.
Which is UH-AMAZING because now I feel Fuh-REEE! There’s breathing room, clarity, renewed vigor.
One little shift and all my power is back.
That ALONE is worth every penny I invested in coaching.
2. As a take-off from #1, and another direct Marie quote: “Go balls to the wall, or stay home!”
Most of us are scared sh!tless to go full out and commit 100% to our desired outcome because we don’t want to feel the sting of an ego bruise.
We’re terrified of making a fool of ourselves, being rejected, or facing public humiliation.
So what do we do?
We sabotage our chances for success before we even begin.
We say we’re fully committed to a specific result, yet our actions tell a totally different story.
I’m totally guilty of this. There were times when I came to my mentors saying I wanted to enroll this many people and change this many lives, yada yada. But then my launch plans were weak, unclear or nearly non-existent.
I’m a marketer. I KNOW how to do launches.
Yet, I’d say, ”I’m just going to do a little launch.”
Avoidance of the dreaded ego bruise.
If I did my “little launch” and say 2 people signed up for whatever I was offering, it would be easy to stomach because I’d have the excuse that, “It was just a little launch. I wasn’t going balls to the wall on this one. I’ll do that NEXT go around.”
Then NEXT time never comes because I’m too busy with my hectic, important schedule of over-commitments! Are you seeing the vicious cycle?
If you’re seeing yourself in these examples, you TOO have a decision to make. Right now.
If you’ve learned anything from me, it’s that marketing is a GOOD THING. It’s how you help people who NEED YOUR HELP to FIND YOU and work with you.
Without marketing you’ve got no game. No matter how awesome you and your product or service are, if your marketing message isn’t compelling, you won’t move people to action. And you’ll be horribly disappointed both financially AND emotionally.
So if you want to “GO BIG” in any area of your business or life, decide in advance to go balls to the wall. Put everything you’ve got––mind, body, spirit and all your resources––into moving forward with a clear plan of action.
You really CAN redesign your business to give yourself a lifestyle others would only dream of (in terms of ideal schedule, being immersed in your passion, and making great money making a difference in the world).
But until you give up your addiction to your GO TO Place, and become OKAY with feeling vulnerable a good chunk of the time (it’s inevitable when you’re going BALLS TO THE WALL), you’ll likely keep standing in your own way. And no matter how brilliantly good ole “Univ” is working its magic, you won’t be able to access all the miracles, assistance and opportunities that are trying to make their way to you.
Thanks for being here.
All my love,
P.S. Got thoughts or feedback for me? Leave a comment. I’d love to hear how this helped you, or anything else you want to share.