Oh, the shit we say to ourselves: “You’re a failure. You’ll never be a real [insert profession here].”
“You never follow through on anything. You’re a dirty filthy procrastinator!” It’s easy to have a chuckle at the absurdity of these thoughts when you see them typed out like this, but the fact is, this kind of stinkin’ thinkin’ can corrode your relationships like acid rain on a tin roof.
No matter how good or strong your relationship is, we’ve all had those arguments.
The ones that seem to escalate for no good reason. A simple disagreement turns into a shouting match where both of us want to force our point down the other’s throat.
The fight usually ends when one of us reaches a point where we can’t take it anymore.
Many of these words are simply part of the vernacular. There’s no intention behind them per se, but by bringing a bit more awareness to the way we speak and write, we can up our game big time.
I’m going to tell you what you probably already know… Everybody loves a people-pleaser. They’re the ones who are always really nice and considerate. They help out at a moment’s notice and never say no when asked for a favor. They make great employees because they’re ultra-reliable and pride themselves in going above and beyond the call of duty. In romantic relationships, they make it a point to take care of their partner’s every want and need. So who wouldn’t like a people-pleaser? Unfortunately, people-pleasers almost never like themselves.
