How to Stop Complaining Cold Turkey

Forever changed by the ‘Purple Blur’

by Kris Ward

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Three days ago, I dropped to my knees in tears of gratitude because I felt so much love in my heart.

It was like an explosion––cracked me wide open. One of those moments when everything made sense and I remembered, once again, my connection to every person and creature on the planet.

Wait. Deeper than connection. Oneness. 

You know the sweetness.

The internal revelation that comes and melts away everything BUT love. Where suddenly you’re reminded that it’s IMPOSSIBLE to veer from your path. That everyone and everything you’ve ever danced with has led you to the big fat X that you’re standing on right this very second. And all along, you’ve been playing the exact role you needed to play.

Well it’s Christmas Day. So I figured today was a good day to share this delicious experience with you and to tell you that I love you.

We may not have had personal time together, you and I. But talk about me, talk about you…. what’s the freakin’ difference? We want the same things. We are each others’ mirrors.

We want to be true to who we are. Just simply, honestly, perfectly ourselves. We want to remember our value, our unique brilliance, our worthiness… and shine that out so purely that it uplifts and enlivens every person we touch.

We want to say YES to the ride on the river of life, to appreciate the contrast and remember that it is because of that contrast that we are perpetually expanding––we can’t stand still, even if we try. We want to see clearly the beauty in all things, people and circumstances; to highlight the good and draw it out; to remember that the purpose of life is JOY.

We want to become even more skillful than we are right now at giving and receiving; not only LOVE… but money, kind words, listening ears, soft hands, hugs and more hugs!

I just wanted to acknowledge that. And to thank you, as always, for reading.

Thank you for your time and attention. Thank you for the work you’re doing in the world.

YOU are the reason I do what I do.

AND… since the holidays are about celebrating, being grateful and giving gifts, I also want to take a minute to encourage you to give yourself the gift of the ‘purple blur’. 

What the hell is that?

If you’re like me, the purple blur is what you’ll likely see when you first start out on the journey to no more complaining.

That’s right. NO MORE COMPLAINING.

We’re talking COLD TURKEY.

I’ll back up for a second.

A few weeks ago, a fellow yogi showed me a purple bracelet on her wrist. Engraved on it were the words, “AComplaintFreeWorld.org”.

She told me about this challenge she’d given herself to omit complaining from her life for 21 days straight… and how EYE-OPENING it had been.

“I want one!”, I blurted out. “Do you have another one? I hate complaining! That shit sucks.”

“Oh, shit. That was a complaint, wasn’t it?”

Then she explained how, if I’d had a bracelet on, that would’ve been the moment where I’d need to switch wrists and start my 21 days all over again.

I ordered my bracelet that night. And that was the beginning of the purple blur!

http://AComplaintFreeWorld.org

I’m still on day 1 I think. But I sure am learning how to change complaints into gratitude for all the lovely contrast that helps me give birth to new desires, clarity, preferences and intentions that I can put positive energy into.

Pretty cool, huh?

Then today, right as I was getting ready to send out my Christmas email broadcast, this is what showed up in my email inbox from Abraham-Hicks. (I get their daily quotes):

Most people do not realize that as they continue to find things to complain about, they disallow their own physical well-being. Many do not realize that before they were complaining about an aching body or a chronic disease, they were complaining about many other things first. It does not matter if the object of your complaint is about someone you are angry with, behavior in others that you believe is wrong, or something wrong with your own physical body. Complaining is complaining, and it disallows improvement.

Then as I started writing this blog, the bluegrass song I was listening to on Pandora Radio said, “And I promise you I’ll never, ever complain.”

So that was it. I took it as a nudge to take this opportunity to inspire you to get yourself a bracelet and give yourself the same gift of the purple blur.

Here’s the link again:

http://AComplaintFreeWorld.org

Have fun, and let me know how it goes, k? I can’t wait to hear your stories.

Enjoy your family and friends today.

Warmest Namasté,

P.S. In case you missed it, the recording from the radio interview I did with the ladies of tribal truth is now live. Have a listen:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/tribaltruth/2010/12/17/tribal-chat-with-kris-ward

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Kris Ward
Kris Ward is a Lifestyle Design Coach™ Trainer and the president and founder of AbundantYogi.com. She has helped to educate and inspire over 100,000 people worldwide out of painful conflict around money, self-sabotage, and inhibited self-expression into having the freedom and abundance to do what they love every day, and ...read more

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  1. Maureen Davis
    says

    Hi Kris,
    LOVE THE PURPLE STOP COMPLAINING BRACELET. I ordered 20 to give to various students to take the “stop complaining” challenge. We are all I won’t say guilty but conditioned to complain about something when we have nothing to say, to fill in those gaps, or to create controversy. Instead of saying in a store for instance, “Wow what I pretty dress she is wearing or I like her style” we get in the car and make some smart ass comment about it, instead of admiring it, because how many people can jump on the bandwagon and chime in on compliments? (not many) but we know that we all can complain as a tribe loudly. It was brilliant and thanks for sharing. I will let you now how it goes……

    1. Kris
      says

      So true, Maureen.
      Amazing how one little bracelet can be such a powerful catalyst for change, specifically in our mindset shift from connecting on what sucks to celebrating the contrast that helps us clarify and refine our latest preferences and intentions.
      Thanks for adding your voice to this.
      XO
      -K.

  2. Alissa
    says

    Thank you so much for this. Happy Holidays. Love and hugs.

    1. Kris
      says

      You’re welcome, Alissa!
      HNY!
      XO
      -K.

  3. dena stoltz
    says

    I saw that Kris and Kraig were taking the Complaint Free World challenge a couple of months ago and LOVED the idea – so I ordered my bracelets. You have to order 10, so I had 9 extras (and my hubby informed me he did NOT need one ;)….I have a blog so I decided to put it out to my readers and see if any of them would take the challenge with me. They did and it was AWESOME! We had so many great insights and funny stories and such great AWARENESS of ourselves as well as OTHERS and what we are saying and doing. You can read about it all here: http://www.parttimegypsies.com.

    PS. This website was started due to Kris’s coaching and help. I have truly found my calling, found what lights me up. Thank you Kris!! 🙂 Love you sistah!

    love,
    dena

    1. Kris
      says

      Hey Dena! So glad you chimed in here.
      I hope everyone reads your hilarious blog post on the purple band.
      You’re SO meant to be doing this. I love knowing I played a role in helping you move in that direction. You’ve got a BOOK in you fer surrrrre.
      HNY mama!
      XO
      -K.

  4. Ande
    says

    I’m so with you on this one, Kris! My husband and I turned our home into a complain-free zone, and not only are we happier, it’s brought us closer together. Any time we’re tempted to complain, we flip it to a preference or desire. We made it for a full 21 days at first. Now we do slip up from time to time, but we catch ourselves because it’s so not part of our norm that it feels discordant to give any attention to a complaint. It’s just a matter of creating a new groove in the old noggin. 🙂

    1. Kris
      says

      Hey Ande!
      You and your hubbie would play quite nicely with Kraig and me. And I agree. It’s easier now to catch a complaint before it ever slips out! High fives for the new groove!
      XO
      -K.

  5. Alma
    says

    Hi Kris,

    I started this past week as well 😉

    I’ve had the book for a while…since Mexico. I ordered my bracelets the other day and am over the moon about starting this journey.

    Lots of love,
    Alma

    1. Kris
      says

      Ooh, I haven’t read the book yet.
      You’ll have to tell me how it is.
      Your purple blur is coming, and I can’t wait to hear about it!!
      XOXO
      -K.

  6. Kerry Tepedino
    says

    Merry Christmas, Kris! you can kick my butt in 2011 with SSS if forget about the purple blur… 😉 blessings and aums, sister. xo Kerry

    1. Kris
      says

      You got it, girl. No problem. I’m good at kickin’ bootie. So excited to have you in AYSSS for 2011!!!
      Thanks for chiming in here too…
      Mmuah!
      -K.

  7. Kristin
    says

    Kris,
    What an inspiring Christmas message. Thank you! I’ve been practicing accepting more joy into my life, and this morning as I watched my kids open their presents, I felt more joy on Christmas day than I can ever remember. Your message hits home.

    One “soul goal” I made a few months back was to surround myself with positive entreprenial women who inspire me to shine my greatness, and you are one of those people. Thanks for your support!

    Merry Christmas!!

    1. Kris
      says

      Hey Kristin!
      You’re so welcome. And I feel ya. Nowadays, more and more, it’s so much more about GIVING, being with family, and watching the joy of others than it is about getting gifts. I experienced the same thing watching my nieces tear through the wrapping paper. They were more excited about their lollipops than anything else! hahahaha

      And AMEN to your SOUL GOAL. Best goal evah!!
      XOXO
      -K.

  8. Tanya
    says

    Thanks so much for sharing your insight and loveliness on this special day of reflection and love for all. I’m on my way through the purple blur!

    1. Kris
      says

      Bring on the purple blur. Girlfriend ain’t skeeerd! 🙂

  9. Jamie Koonce
    says

    I love it Kris! I’m going to see if I can get the yoga center out here to carry these in their boutique.

    1. Kris
      says

      Great idea, Jamie.
      Definitely worth spreading all around the yoga community.
      XO
      -K.

  10. Simona
    says

    Beautiful, thank you, Chris. Light shines through you.
    Many blessings, Merry Christmas!
    Simona

    1. Simona
      says

      Sorry, I meant Kris 🙂 lol

    2. Kris
      says

      MMuah!
      -K.