Unless you’ve been on some radical Internet detox program until just now, you’ve undoubtedly seen this picture everywhere:
I’m not sure what I like better: the fact that the photo is honest — no airbrushing away her “imperfections” to promote an impossible standard of beauty that the vast majority of women can NEVER achieve — or how she described it.
“Beautiful, gross, strong, thin, fat, pretty, ugly, sexy, disgusting, flawless, woman.”
With one sentence she encapsulates the constant internal battle most women wage against themselves. And by sharing this (emotionally AND physically) naked visual, she’s earned us another small victory.
On the one hand, many of us have slowly — and cautiously — given ourselves permission to embrace our imperfections and redefine what “beauty” is.
We’ve been able to pull back the curtain on the great and powerful Oz. To expose the deceitful inner-workings of industries that continually shame us into buying products that feed off the very insecurities that they’ve instilled in us.
Just google “airbrushed models” and you’ll see countless before-and-after Photoshopped images that prove my point.
But despite our newfound awareness and self-acceptance, old beliefs and negative self-images are hard to overcome.
After giving birth to four children and entering into my 40s, my body and I have come to the sober understanding that we will NEVER fit into a pair of size 4 jeans again. Hell…I’d be ecstatic if I miraculously get back to a size 8! I’ve embraced my curves (though I might argue that many would better be described as “lumps”) and stopped being embarrassed about wearing a swimsuit in public.
Despite this acceptance, I’d be lying if I said I was happy about it.
We’re constantly surrounded by images and messages that reinforce the notion that unless we’re a size 0, wrinkle-free supermodel, we’re “gross,” “fat,” “ugly,” or “disgusting” (as Amy describes in her photo). As women, it’s really hard to overcome the barrage of negative reinforcement constantly thrown our way.
Unless you’re the most confident woman in the world and truly don’t give a shit what other people think of you, it wears us down. It feeds the insecurities that have anchored themselves deep inside.
If you’re like me, it’s a continual tug-of-war in my head just as Amy Schumer describes it. So what do we do about it?
First and foremost, we need to talk about it. So let’s flood social media with more honest images of what “real women” look like, and the undeniable beauty we exude through confident, unapologetic acceptance of every curve, every so-called flaw, and every ounce of defiance we show against these ridiculous, unrealistic images touting our society’s screwed-up “standard of beauty.”
Then, let’s finally get to work on unearthing those negative images and ideas about ourselves that took root so long ago.
In my experience, you can’t do it alone. You need support, girlfriend.
Support from someone who’s not just going to be your cheerleader when you’re making positive strides, but who’s also going to call you out when you’re falling back into self-sabotaging behavior. And give you real, practical guidance and support so you can finally overcome those limiting beliefs and behaviors.
Someone like Kris Ward.
If you’re new to Abundant Yogi, take a minute to check out our live, interactive classes that can help you identify (and overcome) the six root causes of self-sabotage, and free yourself from the painful thoughts, stories, beliefs and perspectives that are stealing your joy and keeping you from achieving your highest vision.