A BIG THANK YOU to those of you who made it for the December “Work It” class! For those of you who were unable to make it – below is a brief summary of what went down after we wrapped up our usual “Intro to The Work” at the start of the call:
Amber Bretch Kleid and Christine Obee had sent in their HSPFs (Hot Seat Prep Forms) ahead of time to book their positions as facilitator and client.
We flipped a coin and started with Amber as the first facilitator. She jumped right in, bringing Christine into Inquiry around her stressful statement “Working mums don’t have balance.” Christine is a new mom (mum smile emoticon ) and struggling with her re-entry back into work/writing/coaching. (I was doing The Work right alongside her because I can completely relate to her situation. I’ll bet ALL new moms can, to a degree.)
As Christine went through the 4 questions in the Inquiry process and Amber guided her into the Turnarounds, she naturally found more examples of where she (and other working moms) WERE indeed balanced – and quickly remembered how perspective (what we’re choosing to look at and give our attention to) really does determine our entire experience and emotional state.
The Turnarounds inspired some “Living Amends” for Christine to make – 1) being a bit more conscious and deliberate about catching and re-framing thoughts of doubt regarding her ability to find her work-life balance, and 2) doing some nourishing clean-up with “Little Christine” and apologizing to her for upsetting her and making her feel inadequate and guilty both as a mom and a business woman.
When Christine’s work as the client was complete, she switched with Amber and took the seat of the facilitator, helping Amber to narrow down her “1-liner” / original (stressful) statement as “Greg isn’t invested in our future”. Amber was harboring feelings of resentment, frustration and abandonment towards her husband for not playing what she felt was an equal role in managing their finances.
Amber is newer to The Work, so it took a little bit of massaging, but she stayed with it – and because she was willing to work through layers of resistance, she got to some pretty big aha’s around staying in her own business, looking for the good, not holding feelings in, and realizing where she could take her own medicine and do some of the same things she was wanting her husband to do.
You were such a champ, Amber. It’s never easy to stop and look at our OWN behaviors that contribute to the upset when we’re so upset at someone else for theirs. But you did it. And for that I BOW to you, sister. Deep deep bow. I even kiss your feet a little. 🙂
And now you’ve committed to your own set of “Living Amends” where you’ll share your feelings, requests, AND what you learned in doing The Work with your husband. Bravo!
For both of you, Christine and Amber, I so look forward to hearing how this work supports your hearts’ desires and most beloved relationships and goals. Thank you again for your bravery, willingness to be vulnerable, and let us all learn through your transparency.
For those of you who missed the call, make it a priority to listen – and do your own Work as you do. You’ll start 2016 off much much stronger that way!