Laura Willson, a LifeLaunch student who recently upgraded to LDC, sent in the perfect Hot Seat Prep Form (HSPF) for a rich and honest conversation about the reality of deadlines, the BEAUTY and PERFECTION of reality when our stories are taken out of the picture, and wisely differentiating between Self-care and self-indulgence.
Here’s a summary of what happened after our group self-assessment ritual:
Hot Seat #1 (and only) / Laura / Started roughly 45 min. into the call: When we first gave Laura the floor, as a result of going through the self-assessment ritual, even before going into any 1-1 coaching, she’d already had some new awareness and honest “seeing” to report –– which was awesome to witness. She saw how “Outer” (her Outer Child) had slipped into Self-doubt, second guessing, and worrying about potential failure just after upgrading to LDC (our Lifestyle Design Coach training and certification program). You might call this an “Upper Limit” issue.
Rather than pausing to give her thoughts and emotions their right to live (on paper, on a Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet) and questioning the stories her Monkey Mind was spinning –– she saw how, instead, she defaulted into believing the spinning thoughts and then acting out in attempt to find some pleasure and relief from the stress created by them.
For example, when her kids got sick (more than once, back to back), she used it as the perfect excuse to not make any headway on her coursework. And instead of tending to her Self-care in lots of tiny but important ways several times each day, she indulged in reading a romance novel for a 4-hour chunk of time.
I gave Laura a few more tips on leveraging the Overwhelm Eliminator, accountability buddies, and an ever-running “Hot and Not” list before wrapping up her Hot Seat.
All the love,
-Kris & Kraig