When you think of making the conscious choice to slow the F*ck down – I mean REALLY slow down – be it in your business, your yoga practice, the daily conquering of your TO DO list, or anywhere else where you might lean towards a “faster is better” or a “more is more” attitude – does it scare you a little?
Maybe A LOT?
It does me.
For the last few years, I’ve practiced all sorts of daily rituals and “slo-mo” exercises to train myself to take the pressure off and take it easy in life and business. And while it’s become more natural, it still requires a conscious effort, believe you me.
So I knew when I had my son Rhythm that I’d have to be über deliberate about being gentle with myself during my transition from entrepreneur to mom-preneur. I didn’t want to feel like I was being demoted in any way.
When you’re as passionate about your work as I am, you gotta watch the tendency to over-identify with it or get your sense of self worth from it. It can be incredibly dangerous otherwise.
Big wins can go to your head while big screw-ups can paralyze you with fear.
Not a good place to hang out.
It’s too hard to stay consistent in taking the kinds of risks you need to take in business when your ego is that heavily involved. Better to be a little unattached.
Anyway, as more and more new students enroll into our AY programs, I continue to meet both newbie and seasoned yoga teachers, coaches, and other conscious business owners who are amped to make a bigger difference with their work and 100% committed to having that work fund the life of their dreams.
I have a blast working with them because:
A) they’re not afraid to go after what they want (I love that… they’ve got SAUCE!) and
B) I so easily relate to them… it’s like working with a bunch of ME’s!
But, since they ARE a lot like me and they too have the PRODUCER / ACHIEVER mentality, their work ethic is SICK. While that’s definitely a strength and a sign of a leader, left unattended to, it can lead to major burnout, overwhelm, and all sorts of trouble in the health, wealth, and relationship arenas.
Which leads to my whole reason for writing this post.
If indeed it does scare you to slow down, PLEASE…
Slow the F*ck down anyway.
Go 3 times slower than you can even stand.
It will drive you crazy… initially. But if you keep doing it as a practice – even if it’s just for 10-15 minute “slo-mo” increments 2-3 times a day, you’ll strengthen that muscle. You’ll build the courage to put yourself and your self-care first. And without even realizing, you’ll be training yourself to trust in (and thereby create more) Abundance / ENOUGHNESS vs. Lack / NOT ENOUGHNESS, i.e.:
- There is enough time – I don’t have to rush, it’s not a competition.
- There is enough love – I can just be me, and live true, and I’ll get where I need to go.
- There is enough money – when someone else makes a shit ton of it, that doesn’t mean it takes away from MY ability to make a shit ton too.
- There are enough ‘prospects’ – the more authentic and real I am, the more transparently I show up, the more those who are meant to work with me will find their way to me.
- etc. etc.
I can’t tell you how many coaching sessions I’ve done (hundreds) where I’m helping a fellow entrepreneur pinpoint and unravel what’s keeping her stuck – the source of her suffering. Nine times out of ten it has to do with the pressure she’s putting on herself to perform better… the stories she’s telling herself that she should be further along than she is, or that there is value in trying to “catch up” and “measure up” to what so-and-so over there is doing.
It’s all Monkey Mind.
And all Monkey Mind does is keep you ‘safe’ in the confines of your comfort zone, AKA the very small place where NO MAGIC will happen… ever!
Step up and step out… by slowing down.
Who knew?? 😉